Off & Running
a Blog of Life on the Run

July
13,
2014



An open letter to those who know better

Each of us is older than someone. 
We know better because we've lived longer than they have.
We have walked our shoes ragged, lived in our sunburnt skins,
   seen crazy things, experienced life, 
     yet we forget one thing. 
         We are unique. 
              No one has lived our lives.
       This also means:

We haven't lived their lives.

We share what we've learned with others.
We want them to learn from our experiences. 
We want to save them from the path we took.
But we forget - they aren't living our life.

At 33, I am still being told "You're so young."
When will I stop being so young? 
       Will they say "You're here! You've arrived. We don't have to tell you how to live."
When that happens, will I then be old?

In my teens, I thought 20-somethings knew it all.
In my 20's, I thought 30-somethings knew it all.
Someone always knew better than me. And they told me so.

I've lived more of a life than most ever get to.
I've been married and divorced.
I bought a house that I renovated and then lost due to the market crash.
I have had a dog for 10 years. 
I've moved to both coasts.
I've built a successful business after 5 years of kicking ass.
I've traveled the world and continue to.
I have a degree in what I do for a living.
I am in better shape today than I was 10 years ago.
I am single.
I have zero desire to have kids. Zero.

Yet I still get the "You're young.
You have time. You'll change your mind." 

Excuse me? 

Just because you "changed your mind" doesn't mean I don't know what I want in life. Just because you don't like your life doesn't mean you need to put that on me. Just because you were "young" at 33, doesn't mean I am. Stop putting your life on mine.

I am 33. I will change. I will grow. 
So will you.
But you don't know my life better than me.
It's my life. Not yours.

Let's take a tip from Entrepreneur's Organization and start experience sharing.
Tell me your story.
Tell me about your life.

I want to learn from you. Take from your experiences.
But NEVER look down on me or put your life on mine.
We are not the same person. We have different paths.

My story:

  • My parents did the best they could. I've turned into an incredible person DESPITE them and BECAUSE of them. I am grateful for who they taught me to be.
  • Waiting until my 30's to get a tattoo was the best decision I could have made. I would be covered in ones that had nothing to do with who I really am if I hadn't waited.
  • My 20's were for making mistakes. I made a ton of them, but I don't regret any of them. I am who I am today because of them.
  • I'm happy I got my first marriage and divorce out of the way early. It's allowed me to be in my 30's and happily single without the stress of needing to get married.
  • I love the freedom of not having kids. Period.
  • Living a life without money has taught me a lot about being able to do more with less. I am happily poor and will give away as much money as I can.
  • Traveling has been one of the best uses of the money I have had.
  • Giving back with money or time has given me the biggest return on investment.
  • Laughing out loud changes my negativity instantly.
  • Girlfriends have been my saving grace. Without them, I wouldn't be where I am today.

Time to stop talking down to others and start sharing our experiences. I promise it will get a better reaction if you just share.

What's your story? 

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